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Talha Ibn Ubaydullah!!

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The only man who stood up to hug and embrace Ka’b Ibn Malik after days of boycott by Muslims was Talha. While K’ab walked into the Masjeed upon the news he heard that a verse was revealed based on his plight and his two companions for skipping to go to war with the Prophet, the only man who stood up to hug him was Talha when he was finally forgiven. Not that the rest doesn’t want to.

The companion, K’ab ibn Malik said in a hadith, “l can’t ever forget him, Talha” for what he did or something similar.  In this life, l have learned to appreciate people even when they do little.  I have learned to appreciate people who are there for me when no one will.  I have always appreciated those who couldn’t assist me, even when they wished to.

There is always someone who will leave a good imprint in your life. That person shouldn’t be forgotten. Learn to always be thankful no matter how small. Learn to always show mercy to others and practice loving for others what you love for yourself. I sometimes feel extremely exhausted, and very sad when people need help and l can’t give them at that moment. However, l do feel frustrated at some who want to only become a liability.  But in all, appreciate people and stand tall for people who need a shoulder to lean on.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Social Media!

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One of the good things that happened to someone like us on Facebook is knowing fully the beauty in following the Sunnah of the Prophet (may the peace and blessing of Allah be upon him). Yes, l have met so many good people and l have learned a lot from them.

Depending on what brought you here, learn to have good companions and follow good people. That’s the only thing l can tell you right now. The impact of following good people can’t ever be stressed enough. The benefits are just so many. Ask yourself, who are my companions on this Facebook?  Who do l follow? Do they benefit me or not?

Create a good chapter for yourself and surround yourself with people who will benefit you in both worlds.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

About me

What Else Can You Call Umm Sumayyah Mai?

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I have added ‘Amazing’ to my name. This name was given to me by a patient whom l worked with for two days. So, you can call me “Amazing” and l will be proud to answer you by that name!

Why the name?

I gave an abdominal injection of an anticoagulant medication on the first-day l worked with her, and she didn’t feel any pain. She was scared before the injection, and l promised to be soft on her. Alhamdulillah!  She didn’t feel any pain, and she was happy.  So, she said: “Are you coming back, l want you again. You are amazing. That’s what l will be calling you.”

So, upon the arrival of her family yesterday, she narrated the story to them.  And she told them she had given me the name “Amazing” since the day before. We all busted laughing.  She was discharged home without any distress.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Believing Women Should Be Snored!

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Whilst we advise the womenfolk to stay in their marriage, to be patient, and to persevere for the sake of Allah, it’s also crucial that our men treat them with love and affection.  You must try to treat her with utmost care and protect her honor both in the private and public domain.

You do not speak ill of your woman.  Neither do you leave her unhappy simply because there is another woman in your life?  Every woman is unique in their ways. And believing women deserve to be treated with mercy and love. Our menfolk should always be there to make their woman happy regardless of their circumstances.  Do your best and let Allah judge between you both after you have tried your best.  But to leave them without care is against the practice of our noble Prophet. May Allah be pleased with him.

There are men, and there are other men.  Men, who are faithful and Godfearing; and men who do not give a damn come what may.  May Allah grant us the former and not the latter.  May He ease the affairs of our homes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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College Life!

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Dear honey, yes, you are my son and the only son that gives me joy and trouble. I remember the day you were born and the excitement that comes with knowing and meeting you for the first time.  Remember the story l told you about your birth.  And remember mentioning to you what most first-time mothers experience during labor. Giving birth to you was an unforgettable experience and l am glad for that rare opportunity.  Alhamdulillah!

I am writing to remind you about your next experience in life. That is life in college.  This reminder will benefit you and every other teenager who is opportune to read this note.  I was young, a little bit above your age when l entered College and l remember my mother’s advice during that time.

Know that college can be fun and stressful.  It can be saucy and frustrating, but you shouldn’t give up on your dream. Life is not meant to be easy at all times. It is meant to be ups and down and there are days you will encounter some challenges.  So, be prepared for them.

Remember the son of whom you are and

remember that Allah keeps a watchful eye on you. A lot of things happen in college that are not in line with the way you were raised. But you must be vigilant and cautious of your surroundings.  It’s important to always put Allah first. Let Allah be your priority. Ask yourself, what does Allah say in what l am about to do?

Life without Islam and Sunnah is a complete waste. So, remember the importance we attached to the five daily prayers. Observe them at the appropriate time without leaving them till late night.  Do not leave your prayer for anything. That’s your line of communication to the Highest, Allah.  When you feel empty and life treats you unusually, call unto Allah, the Mighty.

Some of the challenges that come with college is free-mixing. Be smart enough to not entertain anyone who may want to lure you into sinning.  Part of that is shaking hands with the opposite sex.  Do not be shy to refuse any handshake from the opposite gender. The Prophet said, ‘If one of you were to be struck in the head with an iron needle, it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman he is not allowed to.” So, remember this. It’s also very important to lower your gaze, be mindful of looking at Haram! Allah will question us regarding our gaze, what we listen to, and how we live our lives. Avoid Music of any kind. Instead, let the Quran be your Music. Listen to it for it helps to reduce the burden on one’s heart!

Know your companion. Know the type of friends you mingle with.  Be mindful of Allah regarding this. Do not be friends with a smoker, gambler, alcoholic, and or womanizer. The Prophet said: The example of a good companion (who sits with you) in comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith’s bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof.” So, take note of this.

Always prepare yourself for exams.  Do not be a cheater and do not entertain anyone to make you become one. Study well and always aims to be on the list of the most successful ones.  There is nothing difficult to solve.  You know the kind of a mother you have. So, take after me.  Do never give up on your challenges. Call Allah, and do never leave your prayers. You have all the tools equipped with you!  Use them Oh Dear, Son!

Remember Allah, and He will never forsake you! Let your Tahajud (Night prayer) be your means of closeness to Allah and do never leave your Quran on the shelf unopened. You were not raised to be clubbing. So, be wary of joining the bad gangs. It isn’t a good life! It’s rather a sinful life! Remember death may come unannounced!  Always prepare to meet Allah!

Drive cautiously and be mindful of whom you carry in your small car.  Do not entertain anyone who will ruin your life. Know when to say No! I have seen College students who were arrested, jailed, and or become deceased due to a motor vehicle accident.  So, take note of it. Run away from getting in trouble!  Do not imitate any abnormal character from any student. Be respectful to all your professors and carry the Islamic identity in you pretty well.  Render assistance cautiously, and know to which you say, yes, or No! Be mindful of Allah, and He will always protect and guide your steps. May Allah grant you success in both worlds.

I love You, Son!  Do never be tired of asking us questions.  We will always be there to support you, positively, ln shaa Allah!

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Oh Youngsters!

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I was that small girl who was raised by a Mum of seven. I lost my father at a tender age of 11. Yet, l promised myself to stand tall and do all it takes to make my mother proud by being successful. It was a tough journey for a small child like myself. Life was hard! Life was difficult! It was terribly, terrible!

Truly, we were blessed with a kindhearted, loving mother. She was all l could raise my head up and see – all l could share my pains and worries with. Oh My mother! I was a vulnerable girl. But, l refused to be used and dumped by men. I was always careful and l always tried to follow my mother’s advice and instructions.

Perhaps, you are blessed with good parents who nurture and raised you to become successful in both worlds. That Allah has given you a mother and or father who are there for you is indeed enough as a blessing. You should always be grateful. You should always do your best and live your life memorably.

My father was gone when l needed him most. He was overtaken by death which we all owe! I missed every moment that requires his attention – every gathering where his empty seat were spotted. I missed his fatherly love!

My call is for you as a youngster to listen and be obedient to your parents. Perhaps they may leave you unannounced. The life of this dunya is nothing but temporary. Take with you what will make you become successful tomorrow. Be a child whom your parent will be proud of. Avoid being used as sex toy, and choose your friend wisely. Live your youthful age honourably!

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Mistakes Parents Make In Raising Children!

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Giving up on them: Yes, some children are difficult to raise. But once you become tired and leave them alone, you had only added more to their problems. Never give up on your child’s challenges and behavior.

Dua: This can’t be stressed enough. That you made a dua for a particular child and it hasn’t manifested in the child’s behavior doesn’t make you relent. You must continue and be hopeful that Allah will change the child.

Not rewarding a child when he does well. A child should be praised for the little he achieved and encouraged to continue the same pattern.

Not creating time for children: We have seen cases of abandonment in children. This isn’t because both parents are divorced, but because they do not care about raising and nurturing good children. The husband works Mon – Sunday and the mother is always at work. No days are left for the children. We must prioritize our time and do less overtime if we want our children to be successful in both worlds.

No importance is attached to Islamic etiquette and teaching: Children should be taught basic Islamic education. They must be raised on pristine Islam and the fear of Allah should be cultivated in them. A child whose parent doesn’t pray may find prayer strange when advised of its importance. A child should be taught about Tawheed and what it means to be dutiful to Allah and one’s parents.

When parents overlook a child’s bad manners and character: Foremost, you must know your child’s companion and no parent should ignore a child who constantly proves no manners. Correction should be made without delay and reprimanding such behaviour approrapltely is the best.

Every child is unique in their ways: Do not compare A to B. Avoid creating destructive jealousy in their minds. Talk to each child accordingly when they are wrong and do not make a comparison in front of them. That doesn’t mean l am perfect in this area, l have done it before, but it isn’t the best. It may lead to low self-esteem and depression. Caution should be taken at all times.

May add more later, ln shaa Allah. May Allah bless our children and make them successful in both worlds.

Umm Sumayyah Mai