It’s funny how, after a misunderstanding, both spouses often pretend they don’t miss each other. You’ll see Mr. A sleeping without cuddling his wife as he usually does, while Mrs. A turns her back on the love of her life.

Although those little disagreements can help address underlying issues, they can also strengthen the bond between couples who genuinely love one another.

I’ve experienced this in my own marriage, and I still laugh whenever I remember the conversations that followed. Each of us would have our own complaints:

“You went to work and didn’t call me like you usually do.”

And I would reply,

“You came home without saying, ‘Go and tell your mum upstairs that I’m back,’ like you always do.”

SubḥānAllāh, those little disagreements can be amusing. They remind you how much you cherish the small gestures that make your relationship special, and sometimes they deepen your appreciation for one another.

Wallāhi, marriage can be both sweet and funny. That’s why it’

Life will not always remain the same. Struggles and trials are an inevitable part of our journey. We were created to face tests, though each person’s test is different. What matters most is having Tawakkul—complete reliance upon Allah.

The storm may be intense. The pain may feel overwhelming. There may be seasons of heaviness and emptiness, but they will not last forever. Allah’s promise is always true, and He never wrongs anyone.

Allah tests us to prove the sincerity of our faith when we say, “We believe.” He tests us to prove the sincerity of our love when we claim to love Him. And He tests us to elevate our status and increase our ranks in this world and the Hereafter.

So, when trials come, be patient. When your heart feels heavy, remain steadfast. And when emptiness creates a void within you, return to Allah—the only One who can fill every emptiness, lift every burden, and grant lasting peace.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

One of the beautiful things we have witnessed over the years is that some couples who divorced eventually found their way back to one another. They chose to forgive, overlook past mistakes, and accept each other’s flaws and shortcomings. By the permission of Allah, they were given another chance to rebuild what was once broken.

Of course, not every story ends this way. In some situations—such as abuse, shirk, or other serious circumstances—remaining apart may be the safer and wiser choice. Every marriage and every divorce has its own unique realities.

However, we have also seen couples reunite after years of separation. Some even remarried other people before realizing that no marriage is perfect and that the spouse they left was, in many ways, better suited for them than the one they later married.

Every situation is different. For some, leaving the marriage is the best decision. For many others, it is worth taking the time to reflect, seek sincere counsel, make istikhārah, and exhaust every lawful means of reconciliation before saying, “I do no more.”

May Allah rectify all our affairs, guide our hearts to what is best, and bless our marriages with love, mercy, and lasting tranquility. Āmīn.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Sincerely, a great deal is expected of a man. He is expected to be a provider and a protector, carrying the weight of his responsibilities with little room for excuses.

Yes, that is true.

But let me tell you something: unless your husband is exceptionally wealthy, you should understand that he may not be able to provide every single thing you desire or meet every expectation you have.

That is the reality. I am not here to paint an unrealistic picture of marriage or pretend that every husband can fulfill everything on a wife’s wish list. So, do not enter marriage expecting a flawless man or believing that your husband will be able to provide everything exactly as you imagined.

I am not referring to men who are irresponsible, lazy, or neglectful. I am speaking about the man who wakes up every morning determined to earn a lawful living; the man who works tirelessly to pay the bills, provide food for the family, clothe his wife and children, pay school fees, and carry the burdens of his household, often without anyone noticing his silent struggles.

Indeed, there are men, and there are men.

If Allah has blessed you with a God-conscious husband—a man who sincerely strives to live according to Islam, follows the Sunnah, and provides for his family without being stingy or lazy—then appreciate his efforts. Make duʿāʾ for him. Encourage him. Stand by him.

Being a good man is not easy, and the responsibility becomes even greater when children are involved.

May Allah strengthen our husbands, bless them with halal provision, grant them sincerity and steadfastness, and make them among the righteous. May He also make us spouses who appreciate, support, and encourage one another. Āmīn.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

I went to bed very late last night after making some calls and conducting an in-depth investigation into a marriage proposal that was brought to my humble self. Although the process was exhausting and time-consuming, I was grateful for what I discovered. I have always been a strong advocate for thorough verification before saying, “I do.” This particular case reinforced that conviction even more clearly. What may appear promising on the surface can sometimes reveal important concerns when examined carefully.

Whether you are single, widowed, or divorced, one important piece of advice is this: do not rush into making decisions about a marriage proposal. No matter how attractive or tempting a proposal may seem, marriage should never be approached alone or based solely on emotions. Seek counsel from trusted family members, knowledgeable individuals, and people who sincerely care about your well-being. Ask questions. Verify information. Observe character. Make istikhārah. Take time to verify pretty well. A decision that can affect the rest of your life deserves careful consideration.

Many people ignore red flags because they are eager to get married, afraid of missing an opportunity, or persuaded by appearances. Unfortunately, some discover the reality only after the marriage has taken place. Protect your heart by seeking the truth before committing. It is far better to delay a decision than to regret a hasty one. For a deeper understanding of this important topic, I encourage you to get our books,

#Towards a Successful Marriage & #Heart-to-Heart with My Sister.

May Allah protect us from deception, guide us to what is best, and bless us with spouses who will be a source of peace, righteousness, and happiness in this life and the next. Āmīn.

Umm Sumayyah Mai