When Your Parents Correct You, Don’t Mistake It for Rejection
One of the most difficult things for a young person is being corrected by their parents—especially when they feel they are old enough to make their own decisions.
Sometimes, a parent’s words may come across as harsh. Sometimes, you may feel they do not understand your generation, your struggles, or the world you are growing up in.
But before you conclude, “My parents don’t understand me,” or “They just don’t want me to be happy,” pause.
Correction is not always rejection. Guidance is not abandonment. And disagreement does not mean a lack of love.
Your parents may not always express themselves perfectly, but many of their concerns come from experiences you have not yet lived.
Allah says:
“And We have enjoined upon man goodness to his parents.” — Qur’an 29:8
Being a respectful child does not mean you can never disagree with your parents. It means you learn how to disagree without becoming disrespectful.
You can say, “I understand your concern, but may I explain how I see it?”
You can ask questions instead of raising your voice.
You can express your feelings without insulting them.
You can seek clarification instead of assuming the worst.
And when they correct you, listen before you defend yourself.
Perhaps they are wrong about something. Perhaps you are right. But even then, your character matters.
Remember: How you respond to correction says a lot about the person you are becoming.
And parents, too, have a responsibility. Correction should not become humiliation, constant criticism, or a refusal to listen. Children need guidance and a safe space to communicate.
To every Muslim young person:
Do not allow a temporary disagreement with your parents to create a permanent distance between you.
Talk to them. Listen to them. Respect them.
And when you feel misunderstood, make duʿāʾ before making assumptions.
May Allah place love, wisdom, patience, and understanding between parents and their children. Ameen. 🤍
Tuesday | The Muslim Youth Journey: Growing in faith. Growing in wisdom. Growing into the person Allah wants you to become.
Umm Sumayyah Mai
