If a widow were asked how much she misses her husband, she might not stop crying, and perhaps she won’t remember the bad times. All she’ll want to recall is his good side. The thought of not seeing him again is sorrow, pain, and agony enough. She would have forgiven him, and instead, she misses him, especially if he had left her with multiple children.

This should be the same in marriage. Recognizing that no one is flawless except Allah is enough to forgive our hurts. Especially if our spouse feels remorseful and wants to make amends at all costs. If Allah blesses you with a good spouse and an issue arises in your marriage, try to see the good side of your spouse and don’t close all doors. Marriage requires forgiveness, sacrifice, patience, and endurance. No one on earth is flawless, and our spouses will inevitably have flaws. We must learn to overlook some of their flaws and forgive them for the sake of Allah.

This advice isn’t for spouses who don’t care about the relationship, but for those who are sincerely working hard to make it work. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

As a Muslimah in the 21st century, you have the power to be whatever you want to be without compromising your faith, dignity, and pride. Your goals and aspirations can align with great opportunities and achievements, as long as they don’t contradict your values.

To achieve success, it starts with you. It begins with what matters most to you and how you plan to work towards it. Staying focused on your goals requires discipline and determination. Learn from those who prioritize their faith and values, and take inspiration from their wisdom and knowledge.

You have the potential to achieve great things. Remember, success is not a solo journey. Draw strength from your faith, and don’t be afraid to seek guidance and support. You can do it. You got this!

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

Life is a trial, and marriage can be a test of faith. What’s crucial is to marry someone who fears Allah. Unfortunately, the fear of Allah we preach to our sisters isn’t always reflected in some of our men. These sisters often end up questioning the faith we encouraged them to have. Could it be that some men pretend to have this fear but don’t truly possess it?

The foundation of marriage is built on love, deen, and compatibility. Marriage is half of our deen, and we must live with one another honorably. What do we call a man who neglects his pregnant wife simply because she’s offended him? Where is the love in such a man’s heart? Where is the fear of Allah? Why would someone impregnate a woman and leave her to care for the pregnancy and baby alone? That is humiliating and disheartening!

On the other hand, marriage has taught me valuable lessons about patience, perseverance, and endurance. It’s taught me that trials can come in marriage and that I shouldn’t dismiss opportunities for counseling and guidance from those who’ve experienced similar challenges. Marriage has also shown me that it’s not always easy and that comparisons with others’ relationships are unfair. Marriage has taught many of us to learn from our mistakes and advise others not to rush into or out of marital challenges without careful consideration. Perhaps life is a trial, and things can still be resolved if both parties are willing to work on their issues.

Those who think they’re superior to their spouses could benefit from humility and fearing the Most High. Marriage has also been a blessing for women who remain faithful despite being tested by unfaithful spouses. Allah may replace the unfaithful spouse with someone better.

When Allah tests you in your marriage, don’t make a rash decision. There are many factors to consider before closing all doors. Will the next man be better than your previous husband? What about his faith and fear of Allah?

If you plan to divorce your husband because he married another woman and you have children, you need to weigh the chances of finding a man willing to accept children. You may likely end up in a similar situation again (getting married to an already married man). In all, prayers are necessary, and do not always base your judgment on emotions. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes and guide us to nurture our relationships with love and care.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

Choose Well, Dear: The Foundation of a Blessed Family

The person you choose to marry plays a significant role in shaping the future of your children and the kind of family you build. Compatibility in Deen and character is not just important – it’s a deal-breaker. You want a partner who shares your values and aspirations, especially when it comes to nurturing your children.

Imagine wanting to raise a child who memorizes the Quran, but your partner struggles to pray five times a day. Or envision wanting your daughter to wear the hijab with pride, but your partner is indifferent or even opposed to it. Such differences can create deep-seated hurt and regret, hindering your ability to achieve your goals as a parent.

When choosing a life partner, consider whether they will support your efforts to raise children who are strong in their faith and morals. A compatible partner can be a source of strength and encouragement, while an incompatible one can be a source of stress and conflict.

Don’t settle for anything less than a partner who shares your commitment to your faith and values. The benefits of a harmonious and like-minded partnership far outweigh the risks of potential disagreements and conflicts. By choosing wisely, you’ll lay the foundation for a blessed family and a brighter future for your children.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

You don’t realize the weight of your own struggles until you see others who’ve faced challenges so daunting they’ve lost their eyesight to tears.

Yesterday, I caught a glimpse of a woman wiping away her tears without her noticing me. I was torn between approaching her and respecting her privacy, knowing that sometimes inquisitiveness can be hurtful. Often, people just need to cry out their pain and reflect deeply before making a decision. So, I chose to remember her in my prayers instead. May Allah ease her affairs and bring her peace.

Life can be overwhelming, especially for women. It’s crucial for us to be aware of the struggles those around us might be facing. As loved ones, it’s essential to be supportive, understanding, and forgiving toward one another. Life is indeed complicated and delicate. When interacting with others, let’s strive to be as kind as possible. May Allah ease all our affairs and guide us to be a source of comfort for those in need.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai