Our character can either fail Islam or bring people to Islam. I’m not perfect, but one thing remains constant: being good wherever I go and leaving a good impression. A lady recently asked about the mosque I prayed at and surprised me by saying she’s considering taking her Shahadah. She’s a Christian, and her Ethiopian husband is Muslim; now she’s contemplating Islam. Though I’d never discussed Islam with her, my interactions seem to have made an impact. I promised to bring her a Quran and pray that Allah guides her. May He ease her path and strengthen her faith. Please remember her in your Du’a.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

When a woman loses her life partner, whom she loves so dearly, the pain in her chest is indescribable – it’s heavy and pinches so badly. Tonight, my heart goes out to Abu Sufyaan’s wife. By Allah, I wish to meet you and hug you, to tell you that I feel your pain deeply. I still haven’t gotten over the loss of your beloved husband – our beloved brother. May Allah strengthen you, the baby, and the rest of your children. May He grant you Sabr Jameelah. Indeed, we shall all return to Allah. May He guide our souls towards goodness.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

As we age, companionship becomes essential. Forget the notion that we don’t need someone – we all need love, affection, and a partner to share life’s joys and stresses. A supportive spouse brings laughter, joy, and peace. This life is meant to be lived with someone special, growing old together in love and affection. Nurture your relationship, and may it bring you serenity in your later years. May Allah strengthen the bond of love between us and our loved ones.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

This afternoon, upon waking up and getting ready for Zuhr, I had a headache. So, while in prayer and upon reaching sujud, I started asking Allah for relief from my headache. I repeated it at least three times. By Allah, just after the prayer, I didn’t feel any headache – it was gone without taking anything. As Muslims, it’s essential to be intentional about seeking Allah’s pleasure and being prayerful, with the conviction that our prayers will be answered by His grace.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

This death weighs heavily on my heart. Oh Allah, forgive Your servant Shaykh Lukman (Abu Sufyaan), ease his questioning in the grave, and grant his family, especially his wife and children, the strength to bear this immense loss. He lived upon pristine Islam and passed away upon it. A Salafi has departed. We’re indeed saddened by your passing, but we find solace in the fact that your righteousness was evident. Alhamdulillah. May Allah continue to shower His mercy upon him.

Indeed, losing one’s soulmate can take a while to heal in the heart. It often leaves one feeling sick, depressed, and sad for a long time. Those who have gone through this trial or are currently experiencing it understand exactly how it feels – the pain and the burden of the loss. It becomes even more challenging if the one affected is a woman with children and no steady income. The situation is even more disheartening if she’s expecting a baby or has recently become pregnant. We’ve seen cases like this, and they’ve always been frightening.

One of our sisters recently lost her husband, leaving behind three children, and currently, all we can offer her is SABR (patience). Indeed, patience is crucial during such inevitable situations. We pray to Allah to ease her pain and worries, protect the children, and grant them success in both worlds. May He bring solace to her heart and grant the family the strength to bear the loss. Above all, may Allah forgive our brother, overlook his sins, and grant him Jannah. Ya Rabbal ‘A’lamin. Only those who’ve lost a spouse truly understand the depth of the pain.

Umm Sumayyah Mai.

November. 2020

There’s always something that resonates with me whenever I think of giving up on marriage during the most difficult times of my life. Marriage is life – full of joy, hopes, and aspirations. Yet, it can also be a test for some of us. If your spouse isn’t your trial, that’s a blessing to be grateful for. If marriage hasn’t tested your patience threshold, that’s worth acknowledging.

Some memories hold me back from giving up – my husband’s unwavering support during my nursing school years, being there for our children, especially before my mother arrived, and his significant financial contributions toward my school fees. These gestures mean the world to me and allow me to fall back on them.

Your husband might not have been financially supportive in the same way, but I’m sure he has contributed in other meaningful ways. Reflect on the good times and why you’ve stayed in your marriage this long. It’s unlikely he’s been bad all these years. Take a deep breath and try to approach your challenges with a clearer mind. This might be your test – navigate it with care and patience.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

In life, we meet people who leave behind a beautiful mark. Sometimes, we journey with individuals who not only put smiles on our faces but also transform our lives completely. Yes, every human is born with a gift – the gift to inspire, explore, and conquer. This blessing is evident to all creatures. It’s a rare gift given by Allah, the Most High.

You know yourself better than anyone. What is the gift you’re hiding? What is the blessing you don’t want to use to explore and change people’s lives? For me, Allah has blessed me with a pen that I pray will never fade. He’s given me a large heart, and I’m grateful. May He protect me from every evil among men and jinn.

So, think about you. Reflect on that gift and spread your wings for others to fly. Don’t hide your talent; use it, embrace it, and apply it intentionally. Good morning!

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

It’s that time of the year when everyone joyously celebrates. The children beautifully play and enjoy the serenity. Now is the perfect opportunity to celebrate and pamper your wife for all her hard work throughout the last 12 months. If you’re able to get her a beautiful Eid outfit, kudos to you! If not, there’s still room for pampering. Take her out on a date, or plan a vacation with her – a romantic getaway, just the two of you. Let’s learn to appreciate our women and show them love and care sincerely. Every woman wants to be loved and appreciated. She’s your wife; give her the attention and love she deserves.

Remember, it’s the thought that counts, not the price tag. A heartfelt gesture, a listening ear, or a helping hand can mean the world to her. Show her that you value her efforts, her love, and her presence in your life. Let’s make this Eid a special one for our wives, and may our homes be filled with love, peace, and happiness. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes and bless our relationships.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai