The companions of the grave

The Companions of The Grave

The internet will not be forgotten. And you shall be made to see your good and bad deeds on the day when the truth will be rewarded and falsehood will be punished. The fight for TRUTH didn’t begin today, it had begun several hundred years ago. I saw the GREATEST work of Rasullullah in Medina, the land of peace, and l couldn’t but understand why he had been appointed a Prophet. Rasulullaah was firm and fearless of the Mushrikeen and the Munaffikeen of his time. And Allah granted him victory over them. Perhaps you didn’t know your death could come at any time. What would you leave behind? What would be said about us?

While at Al-Medina Munawarah,  l didn’t understand it at first, but at the Zuhr prayer, l realized people are being prayed (JANNAZAH) after each obligatory prayer. I witnessed it for the five days spent in Medina.

The three companions of the grave based on the title of this write-up, are two newborn babies, and one adult. These three companions were buried together in one single grave as narrated by my husband who accompanied them to the graveyard. Yet, some of us are not preparing well. We only want to be remembered for evil. We want to be remembered for causing fitnah on the land. For wanting to change the Sunnah to suit ourselves. We want to be remembered for insulting the companions of Rasulullah and for making jest at many noblewomen of Islam. We equally will be remembered for following our whims and desires. And for affirming that we would follow our forefathers even if they are wrong and upon misguidance in their mode of worship. We would be remembered for fighting the Sunnah and dehumanizing the people of Sunnah. Yes, the internet won’t ever forget. And Allah continues to keep a watchful eye on us.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

December 25th, 2021

Spiritual Emptiness

Spiritual Emptiness – Umm Sumayyah Mai

This feeling usually comes to the one whom Allah still loves.  Some people may not feel the emptiness until it takes them out of the fold of Islam. That you feel you have sinned against your Rabb, and quickly turn back is a blessing you should count.

Many hearts had been long dead. So, people in this category do not feel the heaviness in their chest.  They care less about their sins and what they do behind closed doors. While you see others asking to be purified and cleansed of their horrible, terrible sins – these people do not even remember death may knock until the reality comes to them and they lose their faith in this temporary world.

Most time, when a believer commits sins, he knows the gravity and the punishment attached.  But the Shaytan still makes him follow his whims and desires, and then, he sins, seeks forgiveness, and goes back to the same sin. It’s important to work on yourself and surround yourself with people who will uplift you morally and spiritually. The pains that come with being empty spiritually may not be healed!

Those whom you take as companions play a significant role in your life, either positively or negatively. If your friend is a hafiz (Quran-memorized) person, you will want to try to meet his standards at least to the minimum. And if your friends are all Hijabis, you will one day become a wearer of hijab. If your companions are those who go clubbing every Friday night, little will you become an alcoholic, and if you are friends with someone who loves to gamble, you may end up being one. So, take time to appraise yourself before your heart becomes darkened completely. May Allah purify our hearts.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

A Lefty Writer

That a Child is a Lefty!

I sometimes see that some Muslim parents whose children are left-handed do not pay attention to them using it for meals. I have one, but we made sure the child uses the right hand to eat from being a toddler. It’s fun to see their creativity, but wrong to allow them to use their left to eat. As Muslims, our left hand is for purification while we use the right to eat. Yes, they are allowed to write with their left hand without any problem. I wouldn’t take that away from any child. I wouldn’t force a child to change his writing side.

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) once said: “O young boy, say the name of Allaah and eat with your right hand, and eat from what is nearest to you.” ( al-Bukhaari)

He also advised that “No one among us should eat with his left hand or drink with it, for the Shaytaan eats with his left hand and drinks with

it.”  (Muslim).  We ask that Allah grant us steadfastness.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Suicide 2

While You Are Waiting

I have a colleague who happens to be a very good person to me, but she is being tried with having a child. The first time she shared her story with me, I narrated my own story to her about my delays and losing my first pregnancy. This, she felt sorry for me as much as l did for her. This person isn’t getting younger anymore.

I have people around me with the same issue and still spoke with someone today who had lost two pregnancies. My heart bleeds for them.

Dear sister, while you are waiting to be blessed by Allah, ensure you are steadfast and thankful to Allah. Do all it takes in a halal way to seek a solution. But also use the period beautifully. Ensure you do something meaningful about your life and your Deen that you will be proud of and add to your story in the future. Be sad moderately and do not lose your health carelessly. May Allah answer your secret prayers. Amiin.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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My daughter Made $170 from Her Mobile Beauty Saloon for The First Time!

I have come to realize the importance of preparing children with beautiful skills for them to become useful for themselves and the community at large. If you are a mother reading this, try to guide your children to engage in skills you think will be beneficial to them in the future.

My oldest daughter was 4 years old while her sister was 2 when l began to teach her how to make puff-puff with the colored rubber bands using her sister for practice. So, she started with her sister’s hair and now that she is a grown-up teenager, she knows it more than I do. She does her hair herself. The hair she usually makes for me will cost me $60 to make at the beauty salon.

Anything we do intentionally or unintentionally has its advantages. So, it’s important to always be creative and engage our children to be proactive as well. I am sure they will appreciate us when they grow up. May Allah protect her and her siblings. May He make our children the coolness of our eyes. I wanted to write this yesterday, but l couldn’t make it. I will also follow up with what I introduced to Dr. Sumayyah tomorrow,  ln shaa Allah! Perhaps, it will benefit you too. Barakhallahu Feekum!!!

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Be Happy When Your Teachings Are Impactful

While leaving the house yesterday, l instructed the kids to record a 3-minute audio lecture after Zuhr which they did. While listening to the audio, l was wowed, and at the same time laughing. I laughed because some of them gave a lecture on what l usually corrected in them. I am still laughing writing this. And that’s especially Dr. Sumayyah’s lecture. Oh my! Doctoooor!!!

I was extremely happy to listen to the first audio where my oldest daughter spoke on charity backing it up with a verse in the Qu’ran and hadith.  I became more pleased when my second daughter spoke about the Bani Israel while reciting the Qur’an to back up her claims. She went ahead to mention the importance of not hiding the truth from people.

I wanted to share this with you yesterday and have you try the experience l got from each of the kids. You can do the same with your kids. It feels good listening to them. It’s funny, and at the same time, a kind of way of preparing them for the future.  May Allah make them the coolness of our eyes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

My Son Spent Half of His Adulthood in Prison

The truth is the fact that when a woman gives birth to a new baby, the excitement that follows the birth when it is said to be a boy has no boundaries. That doesn’t mean most parents do not welcome their female babies with joy and affection. I am just been real here. There are households where parents are looking to have a baby girl which is yet to happen ditto to having boys. We pray that Allah answers everyone’s prayers.

I was having a conversation with a man who has been in marriage for forty-five years and it got to a point that l asked about his children and how he was able to manage and sustain his marriage for those beautiful years. He told me how successful his two daughters are, and sadly, he mentioned his son in the statement: “My son spent half of his adulthood in prison. He didn’t listen to me. He won’t listen to me.”

The truth is, l was sad hearing such a statement from him. But l do not want to be too inquisitive. So, l said, boys are tough to raise. I only got one. But l have my children enrolled in a private Islamic School and that helped us a lot. l saw that his eyes were red after telling me where his son was. But l immediately shifted to how he was able to sustain his marriage for 45 years. A story for another time.

It may be hard for some of us. But, l have experienced the huge advantages of raising children, especially in this type of environment we live in, in an Islamic School. Perhaps, you do not know the blessing of not having your children in prison. I encourage us to invest in the lives of our children. The benefits are more than the money spent. May Allah make our children the coolness of our eyes.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Patience

The Patience of Asiyah

When l think of the Palestinians, l see in them what is perseverance, steadfastness, bravery, and pure faith in Allah. The women and children of Palestine have proved to us what eeman does to the one who upholds it firmly and wholeheartedly. I have seen strong devotion in the children and women, and that really and truly made me proud.

We have witnessed how some of our brethren behave when calamity befalls them. It is on this street that we saw women who committed suicide due to a test from Allah. Yet, Qu’ran tells us the trials and tribulations our predecessors went through and how they were able to scale through. If you can stand firm when trials strike you, you are a hero. You are worthy of emulation.

The patience, perseverance, and story of our mother Asiyah (May Allah be pleased with her) is a great one that can’t ever be forgotten in the history of Islam. This is a woman who was confined and oppressed by her husband. Who would have believed any man would behave cruelly to his wife?  This is why we advocate for resilience in the face of adversity. And that’s exactly what the Palestinian women and children are facing right now- being deprived of food, and water, and murdered on their land as evidenced by all the videos we saw online. We can only be grateful for their strong eeman in Allah.

When Fir’aun ordered that “Asiyah’ be chained to the ground, she wouldn’t denounce her faith. She was bold, brave, and confident on the basis that, Allah keeps a watchful eye on her and there is no true salvation except in Islam. While she was cruelly whipped and tortured, she didn’t give up.  She was shaded by the Angels, and the more she was tortured, the more her faith in Allah grew. What a strong woman! If you happen to find yourself in a similar shoe, as the Palestinians are right now, it’s important to hold onto your faith and remember the struggle and patience of Asiyah in the hand of the tyrant Fri’aun. Indeed, the affairs of this world are nothing but temporary.  May Allah come to our brethren’s aid.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Caring mother

A Letter to Mothers

Dear Mothers,

The first time my first daughter made Jolof rice was on Eid day.  I was far away in Saudi Arabia answering the call of The Lord of the Majestic throne (Allah). And the second time was far better and splendid. I still cook for them, but they cook and know how to cook. You can’t be Majeedah’s daughter and be useless. No! I have promised to raise a better generation of children. This isn’t bragging – It’s a must. This is because l know l will be accountable for the trust that is put in my care.

I am pleading with all mothers to raise their sons and daughters pretty well. I do not want my son to marry a lazy, dirty, unorganized woman. This is why l haven’t left him alone to be dirty as well. I have always taught him what is cleanliness, leadership, and accountability. I have taught him how to clean, and make food for his siblings. I am still working on him. I wouldn’t stop. I told him a day would come when your wife would be at the hospital and you have to be home to cook for your children before the arrival of your new baby.

My definition of a productive Muslim isn’t just about being a Hafiz of the Q’uran. It also engulfs so many things including your character, mannerisms, cleanliness, and being responsible and accountable. Do not be tired of raising better children even if it has to come to sacrificing your sleep.  I am still working on my children and may Allah assist us in nurturing them well.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Marriage and care

Put Others in Your Shoes!

Some of the things that happen in marriage would have been prevented if we put others in our shoes – If we can simply think of our siblings. Any man who plans to divorce a woman shortly after (nikkah) should put her sister in the same shoes. How would you feel if someone sent your sister parking because she has a small b o. b s? There should be other things such a sister will have that will make her unique in her way. Perhaps, such questioning should be included when making inquiries to avoid stories that touch. I am just thinking of how gross it may sound. Most sisters will be naturally shy when it comes to that.

While we advise our sisters to avoid being deceitful in their appearance, our believing men should also realize the fact that it may be hard for a woman to tell the world how weak the husband performs when it comes to intimacy. Many women tend to work with their husbands to find a lasting solution to such a problem. That’s just an example of what it means to be tolerant of some things. Well, it’s is called marriage. You may not be blamed for satisfying your wishes. Please, be mindful of Allah, and put your sister in the same shoes before making a decision.

In all sincerity, except if a woman is very bad, as in, very bad in deen and character, issues such as small b. u .t . t and small this and that can still be managed. Let’s always put the fear of Allah in all that we do. And especially in our marriages. Sorry, it’s just an opinion. It may not sound right to you! May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai