None of those prayers you say will ever go in vain. Allah listens, and He listens to your prayers and cries. I have heard and listened to parents who are on the verge of giving up on their wards. A statement like, “l am tired, l can’t come and die because of a child.” No, the child is a ‘trust’ from Allah. You must do all it takes to make him or her responsible. Never give up on a stubborn child.

A stubborn child can indeed make one life miserable, but, giving up on such a child may have a long time effect. And that effect wouldn’t just be on the child alone, but also on the parent. So, it’s important to keep pushing with proper counseling, and prayers, and firmly stand your ground.

In the end, you will have a good story to share.

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The last place l drove to with the kids was North Carolina. Today, June 29th, l was supposed to have been on the road driving to New York. But, l told them to allow me to sleep this morning. Let me be the one that wakes up myself. I was at work yesterday.  

It’s going to be a month of summer holiday for them and each summer we plan to go somewhere, book a hotel, have fun and return after 3 or 4 days. I have loved doing it with the kids. I always look forward to it each summer.

It’s important to create a memory bank for the kids, aside from the Deen if you have the means. Let them remember days like that when they grow up. I heard my kids talking about each state we had driven to for holidays and l always felt special about it. I am happy they were given every fun they deserved. However, l do not want to do more than 9 hrs drive. That’s kinda enough for me

Look, you do not have to go to New York or whatever, you can create a time for your kids as well. Take them out to an ice cream shop, let them go to a halal restaurant, and have halal fun. May Allah enrich us all. Let me see if my New York trip will work out today or not. May Allah ease all of our affairs.

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Your children will take good care of you too. That was my prayer to my first daughter last night after she washed, cleansed, and combed my hair beautifully. The hair is set to be done today by her, lnn Shaa Allah.

I was so relaxed with a towel on my neck having her do the great work on my head. See, it’s good to have a girl child. And it’s crucial to raise your children well. Try your best to invest in them. They are indeed your priority as a mother. May Allah protect them from all evil. Amyin!

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 have heard and seen brothers who are struggling to put a smile on the faces of their wives and children. They are working hard to get them Eid dresses and also purchase what to slaughter on the big day. Alas, many ain’t buoyant and may not meet up before Eid. 

I see you, bro! Allah sees your struggle. He knows how much you care about your family and He hasn’t forsaken you. May Allah enrich you.

I see my beautiful sisters who are taking a deep breath. Yes, they want to be happy like other women. But things ain’t going well as wished.

Be patient, sister. Be patient with your husband my dear, sister. Allah will enrich him. Allah will uplift him sooner than you expected. It isn’t his fault. Appreciate him for the little he is doing. May Allah reward your patience with Jannah. May He ease the affairs of our home.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Polygny is a practice approved of by Allāh,and it can not be overruled by the personal desire of any human .In fact bearing in mind that it’s a Divine ordainment for men should help a true Muslimah to submit to the decree of Allāh.This is the period to exercise patience and bear the pain with total reliance on Allāh.
Yes it’s easier said than done.but remember that I have been there’ and I write based on personal experience.Its normal to be hurt .It is okay to cry .But remember to hold on to the rope of Allāh.
Tell Allāh. “Here I am a submissive servant of yours.A promise to do it for your sake!
I promise to accept her for ur sake !
My living and my death are solely for you O Allāh help me to be firm, submissive and grant me steadfastness I am about to take on a huge task so help me ,O Allāh
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I was having a nice conversation with a colleague of mine the other day, and l told her l started nursing school when my third child was a month old. She was like, Majeedah; Wow! Wow! Wow!

Yes, it’s really important to be focused and determined in life. I have always told my kids to always go for their dreams. Nothing is unachievable in my diary. If you are certain that something will make a great impact in your life, make sure you pursue it. Do not procrastinate – do not give up. Yes, it can be overwhelming and tiring, but, the goal is success for you.

Seek Allah’s aid through prayers, dedication commitment, and let the result speak for you. May Allah grant us success in all we lay our hands on. I am a go-getter. Yes, l am an achiever. Alhamdulilaah!

Umm Sumayyah Mai

There are two ways your brand or name can become spoiled and extremely difficult to rectify.

1. If you are not known to be truthful, sincere, and of good integrity, you may not be able to rectify the damage your action or inaction has caused you online.

2. If you are known to be honest and of good manners and integrity, some people will still believe what is said about you to the general public. But, your personality and truthfulness will speak for you. This may take time, but your brand will eventually be rectified.

The first is the worst position you do not want to be. Ensure to always maintain a good reputation in both private and public life. No one is perfect but as a business personnel, you must be extremely careful. Hence, you may regret you ever come to the media for business. May Allah rectify us all.

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Consistency creates stability and it’s the key to success in all areas of life. We are advised to choose a habit we can maintain, and build on it.

It is the same consistency that makes you become recognized in the sight of Allah. Once you become addicted, say for example, in observing Qiyam Layl. Allah already recognized you. And if you fall short due to sickness or are overtaken by sleep, you will be getting a reward for what you love doing.

It is inconsistency in prayers that makes some people question who their LORD is. This makes them seek help from others other than Allah.

It is consistency that is missing in relationships, friendships, and marriage at large. Many of us do not want to sacrifice to maintain love and build solid homes for a better generation to come. We are quick to give up.

Inconsistency has made a man or woman who had vowed to be considerate, loving, and merciful towards each other forget the reward that comes with it in both worlds. And indeed Allah loves those who are consistent in worship. However, not many people understand that marriage itself is worship. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.

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Again, marriage is a complex thing. What works in your home may not work in others’ homes. So, before you walk away due to his financial inadequacy, try to see other goods in him.

It may not be ideal to marry anyone who does not have a roof to put you under – nor is it compulsory to marry a billionaire. That doesn’t mean you should say No if you find one whose Din and character please you alongside his wealth. Who doesn’t like good things? A man who is attracted by your beauty should also be ready to spend on you to maintain that beauty.

However, a religious, kind-hearted man may be an average man in finance. That makes sticking with him crucial after thorough findings before saying Yes, I do. Saying ‘Yes’ to him may be considered an opportunity to grow in love and mercy. Your intention of marriage with him is beyond money, but patience. Eventually, when the money comes, he will utilize it considerably.

Money is indeed needed in all relationships. A man should always have something he does regardless. But, love, mercy, and compatibility in Din and characters should never be ignored. If your husband is trying, try to endure. Do not leave the marriage without considering other factors.

May Allah enrich our spouses. May He ease the affairs of our homes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai