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There are so many things to look into when it comes to a marriage proposal. The man Aqeedah, what is the person’s Manhaj? Compatibility in Deen and Character. His patience and mannerisms. How about his anger and how caring he is? Is he someone who has mercy and love in his heart? How is he to his parent and sisters?


You must be able to establish those factors.

Get to thoroughly find out whom he has lived with, transacted business with, and traveled with.


Let me burst your bubble.


I do not say you should accept a proposal from a man who can’t feed himself and does not have a roof to put you under. I do not say you should reject the proposal of a wealthy brother. But, be smart enough to look above wealth. Look before you leap. Again, thoroughly make your findings. Look before you leap. Deen superseded wealth.


In 2003, l married my only husband who was earning 10k monthly and still living in his parent’s house. Wo, this poor woman has gone through a lot in marriage. Get my books for more tips on how to become a successful woman in Dunya and Akhirah. My first book “Towards A Successful Marriage” (buy it here) will assist you a lot before saying, Yes, l do. My second book  “Heart-to-Heart with My Sister” (buy it here) will calm your Nafs to thread patiently and have a forgiving heart toward your husband. My third book “Thriving Together Strategies for Overcoming Polygny Trials”  (buy it here) will assist you in overcoming the trials of a polygyny marriage. May Allah accept and bless all the books.


See, money is very, very, important. But, l am a woman of Tawakkul. But, be sure you are not fooling yourself around with a man who does not give a freak. May Allah grant you the best.


Umm Sumayyah Mai

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