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Children Duaa!!

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Oh Allah, You have granted us the opportunity to witness yet another year of Ramadhaan, Oh Allah! accept our supplications in this Holy month. Oh Allah, accept my fasting, my Taraweeh, and grant all my requests. Oh Allah grant me good health and sound eemaan.

Oh Allah, Make me successful in both worlds. Oh Allah brighten my face. Oh Allah make me happy. Oh Allah be pleased and happy with me.

Oh, Allah! Make me an obedient servant of yours. Make me an obedient child to my parents. Oh Allah allow me to always do things that will make them happy and not sad.

Oh, Allah! illuminates my face with your light. Oh Allah make your book, the Quran, the Light of my heart. Oh Allah elevate me in this Ummah. Oh Allah, do not make me sad or break my heart. Oh Allah prevent me from the fire of Dunya and Akhirah, and grant me the highest rank in Jannah.

Oh, Allah make me memorize your book and never forget it. Allow me to read it on the day of judgment with light surrounding me and my heart full of Joy.

Oh Allah grant me success in my academics, Quizzes & Tests. Oh Allah, promote me excellently to the next grade and grant me all my heart desires. Oh, Allah, help fulfill my dreams of what l want to become in life.

Oh, Allah! Make me the Imam/ Ustādha of your Masjeed in Mecca and the Masjid of Rasoolullah in Medina Al-Munawarrah. Oh Allah make me love You and make me love the Prophet and put the love of those whom you love in my heart.

Oh Allah, grant me Halal Risq and make me among those who give charity solely for Your Sake. Allow me to be persistent in doing numerous acts of worship and charity.

Oh Allah ease the affairs of my parents. You know what they want most in life, for themselves; and for me and my siblings. Accept their prayers on us Ya Allah.

Oh, Allah! put your love in their hearts. Oh Allah continue to put love and mercy between them. Let them reach old age in sound health, eeman, and taqwa.

Oh Allah, as they are raising and nurturing us on the path of Islam and Sunnah, allow us to appreciate them. Allow us to take care of them when they become old in our hands and return their hard work and sacrifices with Jannah.

Oh, Allah! Do not make me among those who commit Zina, theft, and lie. Oh Allah grant me steadfastness upon the Deen. Oh Allah make my feet firm upon righteousness.

Oh, Allah! Grant me beneficial knowledge, piety, and taqwa. Oh Allah allow me to live long on the straight path. Oh Allah grant me wisdom and a good heart.

Oh, Allah! distance me from Hellfire and draw me closer to Jannah. Allow me to do the work of the people of Jannah and grant me a good ending.

Oh, Allah! Make me among those who weep in secret for your Sake. Make me a JUST ruler. Oh, Allah! always wake me up to seek your face during the third part of the night. Make the love of the Masjiid firm upon my heart.

Oh, Allah! Forgive all my sins and grant me humility towards Allah, toward the people, and upon the Deen. Oh, Allah invoke on me your mercy, blessing, and forgiveness. Oh, Allah! make me a child my parents will be proud of.

Oh Allah ease for me my affairs and do not leave me to them even for a blink of an eye. Oh Allah protect me from all evil eyes among men and Jins. Oh Allah make me among those who will die upon Islam and Sunnah. Allow me to follow the Sunnah in all my activities and make Jannah Al-Fridaws my final abode.

Oh Allah! allow me to always observe my five daily prayers on time along with the Nawafil, and grant me concentration in my prayers. Grant me the ability to read from the depth of my heart with full attention to the meaning.

Oh Allah, allow me to always fear you both inwardly and outwardly. Oh, Allah! allow me to be among those who will enter the gate of Solaat, Zakat, fasting, and charity, and make the Prophet and the Quran an intercession for me on the Day of Judgment.

Oh, Allah! I seek refuge in you from the punishment of the grave and the torment of it. Oh Allah distance me from Hell and distance me from committing sins knowingly and unknowingly.

Ya Rabbal Ala’aameen.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai 

Ramadhaan 1443 AH

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Preparing Our Hearts

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The weaknesses of our hearts are immense, causing destruction and chaos in our lives. We’re consumed by distractions, constantly glued to our phones and the media. This addiction worsens daily, and it’s no exaggeration to say that our youth are heavily influenced by what they see in the media and often tempted to emulate it.

Our souls are being corrupted, and the media’s distractions have replaced the Quran, Adkhar, and tarbiyyah (nurturing) of our children.

As Ramadan approaches, let’s prepare our hearts for this blessed month. Let’s gather resources that will benefit us during and after Ramadan. Make a sincere intention to maximize the opportunities Ramadan presents.

It’s time to eliminate distractions and immerse ourselves in the spirit of Ramadan. Block out distractions, increase your Quran recitation, and observe Qiyamul Layl (night prayers) regularly.

Humble yourself, acknowledge your sins, and seek forgiveness from Allah, the Owner of our souls.

Let’s start preparing now and prepare well. May Allah grant us a blessed and transformative Ramadan.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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As a Mother of Multiple Daughters

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I’m still concerned about the recent incident. I’ll continue to raise awareness to prevent such occurrences in the future.

To all youngsters, remember:

Your Adkhar is extremely important. It’s your coat, and you need it at all times.

Avoid engaging in private chats with strangers, especially men, via inbox.

Refrain from sharing your phone number online unless necessary.

Refrain from uploading personal photos.

Prioritize your self-worth and dignity over material gain. Be content and don’t chase men for financial security.

May Allah protect and guide you all.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

My Heartfelt Advice to Youngsters

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I’m still disturbed by the shocking incident in Ilorin. As a word of caution, I urge you girls to avoid double dating. Once you’re committed to someone, stick with them unless circumstances change.

The recent tragedy highlights the dangers of entertaining multiple relationships. The deceased had a prospective husband, yet somehow, the perpetrator gained her trust and obtained her contact information. This disturbing incident has left me concerned.

Please, avoid accepting multiple proposals simultaneously. Commit to one person, and if that relationship doesn’t work out, then consider another. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Important Advice for Our girls

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Don’t consider a man without a legitimate source of income or whose income is suspicious.

Remember, it’s not all about money!

Avoid ‘Jalabi’ boys (those involved in questionable activities) and don’t let them deceive you into rituals.

Avoid visiting any man you meet online at his home – it can be extremely dangerous.

Stop chatting with strangers, especially men, on social media.

Your safety is paramount!

Involve your parents in your relationships; let them investigate and guide you.

Be transparent about any man you’re interested in, even Sunni.

Never think you can navigate marriage alone; involve your family and seek their counsel.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

The Blessing Beside You!

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One of the most profound discoveries I’ve made about marriage is that many of us often overlook the tremendous blessing that our spouses are in our lives. We tend to take this extraordinary gift for granted, failing to recognize its true value and significance. However, I urge you to shift your perspective and start seeing your spouse as the precious blessing that they are.

In times of financial strain and hardship, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. But remember, Allah has blessed you with a life partner, a companion to share your joys and sorrows, while many others are still searching for theirs. Let us not forget that the presence of a loving spouse is a treasure that should be cherished and appreciated every day.

It’s often said that we don’t truly appreciate what we have until we lose it. So, let us cultivate a sense of gratitude and thankfulness to Allah for the gift of our spouses. They are the ones who wipe away our tears, offer us words of comfort, and reassure us that everything will be alright.

In a world filled with uncertainty and challenges, it’s the love and reassurance from our spouses that we need to navigate life’s ups and downs. May Allah grant us the gift of everlasting joy and make our spouses a continuous source of blessing and strength in our lives. May we always cherish, appreciate, and honor the precious gift of our partners, and may our marriages be filled with love, harmony, and happiness.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Thinking about life

Time Fleeting, Memories Remaining

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The days blend into weeks, and the weeks into months, have you ever stopped to ponder the transience of life? The passage of time is relentless, leaving us with only memories of what has been. Ramadan’s approach is a pitiful reminder of the fleeting nature of our existence. As December arrives, I find myself reflecting on the year that has passed. Have I merely added another year to my life, or have I truly lived?

My heart trembles as I consider the wrongs I have committed, often carelessly and without mindfulness. The passing of days is a stark reminder of the fragility of life. I am humbled by the thought of those who have departed this world, leaving behind only memories.

I am also reminded of the distractions that consume our lives – the endless hours spent on social media, the temptations that surround us, and the secrets we keep hidden. And yet, despite these distractions, we must remember that our time on this earth is limited. The inevitability of death is a reality we cannot escape. The Angel of Death will come for each of us, and we will be called to account for our deeds. And so, I ask myself: am I prepared to meet my Lord? Have I lived a life that is pleasing to Him?

Indeed, the pursuit of worldly wealth and possessions is a fleeting endeavor. Let us not forget to prepare for the life that is to come. May Allah guide us on the path of righteousness and grant us the wisdom to live a life that is pleasing to Him. I am sober! I am indeed humbled, Oh, Allah!

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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An Excerpt from My New Book Fabulous at Forty-Five: Designing Your Next Chapter.

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“Oh Allah, as I stand before You in my forties, I reflect on the journey that has brought me to this moment. I am grateful for the blessings You have bestowed upon me, for the opportunities I have had, and for the lessons I have learned.

As I look to the future, I pray that You guide me to live a life of intention, purpose, and joy. Help me to prioritize my relationship with You, to nurture my soul, and to cultivate a sense of inner peace.

Grant me the wisdom to let go of the things that no longer serve me, to release the burdens that weigh me down, and to embrace the beauty of simplicity.

As I navigate the challenges of midlife, I pray that You give me the strength to be resilient, the courage to be vulnerable, and the faith to trust in Your plan.

Help me to be a source of love, compassion, and kindness to those around me. Grant me the ability to forgive myself and others, to let go of grudges, and to cultivate a sense of empathy and understanding.

Oh Allah, I ask that You bless me with good health, with a strong and resilient heart, and with a mind that is clear and focused. Bless me with the opportunity to continue growing, learning, and evolving as a Muslimah.”

Excerpts from the book Fabulous at Forty-Five: Designing Your Next Chapter.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Sincerely, I offended them!

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There are people in my inbox who have messaged me without getting a response. Whilst this isn’t intentional, I sincerely want to tender my unreserved apology to you all. By Allah, it’s not easy to answer everyone. Sometimes, I started to respond and got caught up in another thing. Sometimes, I just want to be alone and think deeply about life and my challenges. A lot of people do not understand that you also have challenges you deal with. It may not even be you directly but maybe someone close to you. That means you have something disturbing your mind, and you will not be able to even check a message, let alone answer it.

When our sister Sekinah passed away, I remembered this place, and I tried to appraise myself. What will the Muslim community say about me after I am gone? Who truly am I, and how many people have I either annoyed or hurt directly or indirectly? I always like to free my mind and speak up about my concerns. That’s who I am. I hate pretenses, and I welcome anyone who says to my face, “You are wrong.” That’s only going to be welcomed after you have established the truth, meaning you have heard my side of the story. As for what is apparent and doesn’t need to be asked about, yes, corrections need to be taken, and we should move on. We are not in this life for play. We are here for a divine purpose, and our actions and inactions matter.

If you are angry that I didn’t respond to your messages, please don’t be. I am very weak. It’s a weakness on my path. I will continue to try. I just want to keep the love we share intact for the sake of Allah. May Allah forgive us all. May you find it easy to forgive me.

Umm Sumayyah Mai