Marriage and Health Issues

A couple faced a daunting challenge when the husband suffered a stroke, followed by the wife. This predicament took a toll on their lives, especially the wife, who became the breadwinner after her husband’s health and financial struggles. Now, with her own health compromised, their future looks uncertain. Imagine the suffering this family might endure, especially if their children are still young and unable to shoulder responsibilities.

Life is a trial, and marriage can be one too.i Reflecting on Allah’s mercy can foster appreciation for one another. No one wishes for afflictions like losing a spouse or struggling with health issues. As couples, let’s cultivate gratitude and hope in Allah. Your husband may not give you everything you want, but he’s still trying. Your wife may have weaknesses, but she’s alive and cares for your children. Marriage isn’t about comparing your partner to others; it’s about appreciating what you have. Alhamdulillah in all situations.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

The Mind Revenge: A Barrier to Lasting Love

One of the key elements that gives marriage a lasting edge is when both couples make a conscious effort to avoid intentionally hurting the one they love. A union between two lovely people not only strengthens their love but also creates a lasting bond. However, when challenges arise, and one party is hurt due to the other’s behavior or character, the hurt individual may develop a mindset of revenge. This mindset, often seen in women, can manifest as a deep-seated desire to retaliate or hurt the other party in the future, especially in old age.

I hear you, and I feel your pain deeply. It’s understandable to feel this way, given the hurt and exhaustion you’ve endured. The sadness and vacuum in your heart are palpable. However, I want to encourage you today to let go of this mindset of revenge. Holding onto it can consume you and prevent you from healing and moving forward.

Instead, consider the power of forgiveness and letting go. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the hurt or excusing the other person’s behavior, but rather releasing the hold it has on you. By choosing to forgive, you can begin to heal and rebuild your life. Remember, life is too short to be consumed by bitterness and anger. Choose love, forgiveness, and peace, and let go of the need for revenge.

By doing so, you’ll not only free yourself from the weight of resentment but also create space for personal growth, healing, and potentially, a more fulfilling relationship – either with your partner or with yourself.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

The Foundation of a Blessed Family

Choose Well, Dear: The Foundation of a Blessed Family

The person you choose to marry plays a significant role in shaping the future of your children and the kind of family you build. Compatibility in Deen and character is not just important – it’s a deal-breaker. You want a partner who shares your values and aspirations, especially when it comes to nurturing your children.

Imagine wanting to raise a child who memorizes the Quran, but your partner struggles to pray five times a day. Or envision wanting your daughter to wear the hijab with pride, but your partner is indifferent or even opposed to it. Such differences can create deep-seated hurt and regret, hindering your ability to achieve your goals as a parent.

When choosing a life partner, consider whether they will support your efforts to raise children who are strong in their faith and morals. A compatible partner can be a source of strength and encouragement, while an incompatible one can be a source of stress and conflict.

Don’t settle for anything less than a partner who shares your commitment to your faith and values. The benefits of a harmonious and like-minded partnership far outweigh the risks of potential disagreements and conflicts. By choosing wisely, you’ll lay the foundation for a blessed family and a brighter future for your children.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

Catching a Glimpse of a Woman

You don’t realize the weight of your own struggles until you see others who’ve faced challenges so daunting they’ve lost their eyesight to tears.

Yesterday, I caught a glimpse of a woman wiping away her tears without her noticing me. I was torn between approaching her and respecting her privacy, knowing that sometimes inquisitiveness can be hurtful. Often, people just need to cry out their pain and reflect deeply before making a decision. So, I chose to remember her in my prayers instead. May Allah ease her affairs and bring her peace.

Life can be overwhelming, especially for women. It’s crucial for us to be aware of the struggles those around us might be facing. As loved ones, it’s essential to be supportive, understanding, and forgiving toward one another. Life is indeed complicated and delicate. When interacting with others, let’s strive to be as kind as possible. May Allah ease all our affairs and guide us to be a source of comfort for those in need.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

Allah loves Us, He loves You

Allah, the Most Merciful, is patient and forgives us when we call upon Him, acknowledging our enormous sins. Allah’s love is evident when He reminds us that we still have the opportunity to make amends and changes in aspects of our lives that displease Him. He assures us of His Rahma, that as long as we are alive, we can seek forgiveness repeatedly. Allah loves you, dear one, and your test lies in embracing His mercy and striving to become a better version of yourself.

Let His love and mercy guide you on your journey, and may you find solace in His words: ‘And it is He who accepts repentance from His servants and pardons their evil deeds…’ (Quran 42:25). Remember, His love and forgiveness are always available to those who sincerely seek Him.

May He grant us His love, and the love of those whom He loves.

– Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Choosing the Right Marriage Partner

Choosing the right marriage partner is a decision that can profoundly impact various aspects of your life. Not only does it help sustain the longevity of the marriage, but it also plays a significant role in maintaining a strong relationship within the community and, most importantly, in raising well-adjusted and happy children.

The person you choose as your partner is crucial for your spiritual growth, mental well-being, physical health, and emotional stability. Therefore, it’s essential to ensure that you’re saying yes to the right person – someone who will support, uplift, and love you unconditionally. This is why taking the time to reflect on your values, expectations, and non-negotiables is vital before making such a significant commitment.

This book aims to guide you through this process, providing valuable insights and practical advice to help you make an informed decision that will positively shape your future.

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Towards A Successful Marriage

Distribution of Packages, Donation of Huge Amounts to Lucky Patients And Award to The Foundation Supporters

It was an exciting visitation yesterday Tuesday, 26th August, 2025 as esteemed brothers and sisters from different states converged at UCH Central Mosque and then visited University College Hospital, Ibadan under the umbrella of our enviable MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation. The team was warmly welcomed by the management of UCH.

Welfare packages worthy millions of naira were distributed to fifty mothers while huge amount of money approximately two million naira donated to lucky eleven indigent patients.

The visitation took more than three hours. It was a rigorous charitable visitation from one ward to another as it consumed more than three solid hours.

After the visitation, the team members went straight to Ultima Restaurant and Lounge, Bodija, Ibadan where palatably delicious meals were served to all. The CEO of MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation, our beloved Hajia Majeedah Ashim Idris ( Umm Sumayyah Mai ) has specially prepared awards and gifts for the team members. The awards and the gifts were presented by Baameko of Ibadanland Chief Saheed Oladele . Another special award was given to a Professor at UCH for his care for the patients.

It was indeed a memorable event. The management of UCH appreciated the foundation’s kind gesture supplicating to Allah to reward all the brains behind it.

It should be noted that MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation has previously executed the below charities in Ibadan:

Majmolqueen Foundation distributed 750 copies of 60 leaves notebooks to students of Olunde Community Secondary School, Olomi-Ayegun Road, Jogbin Area, Ibadan on Wednesday, 6th December, 2023.

One hundred families benefitted from the foundation’s Food Drive on Thursday, 14th December, 2023 at Onila-Olomiyeye and Onila-Ifelajulo, Egbeda-Atuba Road, Ibadan while ten women got cash to boost their businesses in the same date.

The foundation distributed 700 copies of 60 and 80 leaves notebooks to the students of Ifelodun Community Grammar School, Muslim Area, Ibadan on Wednesday, 26th March, 2025.

OUR PROFOUND APPRECIATION

On behalf of MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation, we wish to express our heartfelt appreciation to UCH management for their support, all the respected brethren who participated in the strenuous visitation most especially our team from Kwara and Lagos, UCH Muslim Community, Dr Yusuf Zubair, Dr Mahfuz Adigun and others who contributed to the success of this august visitation. To you all we say: JazakumuLlahu Khairan

 

Appreciation Part 3

The one who strengthens the ties of kinship is loved by Allah, and anyone who severs them may face Allah’s wrath. In fact, severing kinship ties can lead to losing paradise, as mentioned in the hadith. I am deeply grateful to my family, the Ashimites, for their unwavering support and presence. I extend my heartfelt thanks to my uncle and all my nephews and nieces who showed up from far and wide. Thank you, and I will always cherish our bond.

I would like to make a separate post about the first person Allah allowed me to meet during this visit, and l am super grateful to Allah. I asked and He answered.

Shaykhanaa Ibn Sulaiman Najmuddien, may Allah prolong his life in goodness. He kindly arranged for fresh, rich cookies and chocolate bread to be made for us and even paid for the delivery himself. Jazakhumllahu Khayran, sir.

I also want to express my gratitude to the wonderful sisters – the wives of our amiable Imam Sanni Kay Yusuf, Umm Rashidah Waheed Sanni, and our dear sister Omoniyi Olaitan Khadijah.

The welcome they extended was truly unique and professional. Umm Rayyan’s warm hospitality and the delicious food prepared by the second queen, with Iru added to the jute leaves (ewedu), left a lasting impression on me. I fell in love with their warmth and kindness.

May Allah bless our Imam and all the brothers he introduced us to, who were incredibly welcoming. I was also delighted to see my brother AbdulMajeed from Beneficial Islamic Books, his wife, and their new baby. I appreciate the thoughtful gifts they gave us. May Allah reward them abundantly.

Lastly, I am super grateful to Ustadh Rasheed Haashim for his words of encouragement and advice. I was impressed by the students’ recitation skills at Muflihun High School – they were truly top-notch. Thank you for the gifts and for having us. I sincerely appreciate your kindness.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Appreciation Part 2

Let me start by saying thank you to all my fans, especially MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation fans on every platform. Without Allah and your support, I am nobody. May Allah continue to bless you all.

I met some beautiful sisters at the UCH humanitarian charitable visit and was delighted to see them. They took time to meet with me for the sake of Allah, which gladdened my heart. I received gifts from these lovely sisters. Sister Jariya Aramide, thank you; my sister also enjoyed the seasoning you gave me. Sis Roheemah Oloyede Roheemah, I’ll enjoy the fish with efo riro – thank you.

Babe Baseerah Ribigbe, my twin nieces have taken copies of your books, and the girls here are eager to read them. I’m grateful to the beautiful sisters who came to show me love, even if I’m struggling to remember everyone’s names. Sister Ruqoyyah, Umm Fatimah, and the rest, may Allah be pleased with you all.

Thank you for making my journey memorable. I’m humbled and honored. Unfortunately, I couldn’t meet everyone who wanted to see me, and I’m sorry for that. I seek your forgiveness, and may Allah love you all. It was a short trip, and seeing everyone was challenging. May Allah continue to strengthen us all.

To be continued, Inn sha’a Allah.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

My Appreciation Part 1

I thank Allah, the owner of my soul, who made my journey to and fro safe. How many people leave their homes on a journey of no return? Indeed, I’m grateful for this. I’m grateful for all the opportunities Allah has given me and will forever be thankful to Him.

There’s something unique about the people around me, especially those who are part of the MajmolQueen Charitable Foundation team. Allah has chosen these people for a purpose, making them among those who are sincere and humble. Imagine doing things solely for Allah without expecting anything in return – this and more are why they’ll always have a place in my heart.

I’m grateful to all the MajmolQueen Foundation Board of Trustees, led by Ustadh Kabir Al Asfar, and all our team members. I respect Ustadh so much and ask Allah to continue to make him firm and grant him steadfastness.

While planning my short trip, I thought of giving back to the community and staff at UCH who were once there for one of my relatives. To execute this plan, I needed good people willing to seek the face of their Lord. The first person I contacted was Ustadh Rasheed Haashim, followed by Babe Baseerah Ribigbe. Ustadh will never say no to anything related to Majeedah. Babe said, “Darling MAI, I’m always ready. All you have to do is notify me. I always want to be part of Khayr.

Olayiwola Suliat Yetunde, Sis Jariya Aramide, and Amsod are part of my great people when it comes to MajmolQueen Publications. To everyone who makes our books available in your various states, I’m humbled and honored. I love you all.

Ibn Abdillah As-sudaisiy Al-Iloori, Aliyah Bint Aliyy Oladapo, Mallam Akeem Ibrahim Abu Zayd Idris Ismail, and Mallam Balogun Abeeblah Ajıbola (Oniwaka of Nigeria) not only amazed me but also gave me love, hope, and sincerity. Oh, Aliyah, Olori, as I fondly call her, may your days be long on earth. May Allah grant all your secret prayers. These people didn’t know I’d be coming home, yet they agreed to meet with other team members at UCH for our foundation’s humanitarian visit. This is beyond me; I was wowed and happy. I’ll never take this gesture for granted – it means a lot to me. May Allah grant you all everlasting joy.

BN AbuHaneefah wowed me beyond reasoning when he agreed to join them all the way from Lagos. How can I not appreciate him more? I’ll forever be grateful to you. May Allah grant you success in all you do.

To my lovely friend, Mansurah Opeyemi, all the way from Abeokuta, I appreciate you. Dear, l love you. May Allah love you more.

Oh, Mallam Saheed Oladele, Baameeko of Ibadan land, is my brother anytime, any day. How can I even begin to appreciate him? This man is the embodiment of humility and honesty. I’ll talk more about him in part two, Insha’Allah.

To be continued, In shaa’Allah

– Umm Sumayyah Mai