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Preparing Our Hearts

The weaknesses of our hearts are immense, causing destruction and chaos in our lives. We’re consumed by distractions, constantly glued to our phones and the media. This addiction worsens daily, and it’s no exaggeration to say that our youth are heavily influenced by what they see in the media and often tempted to emulate it.

Our souls are being corrupted, and the media’s distractions have replaced the Quran, Adkhar, and tarbiyyah (nurturing) of our children.

As Ramadan approaches, let’s prepare our hearts for this blessed month. Let’s gather resources that will benefit us during and after Ramadan. Make a sincere intention to maximize the opportunities Ramadan presents.

It’s time to eliminate distractions and immerse ourselves in the spirit of Ramadan. Block out distractions, increase your Quran recitation, and observe Qiyamul Layl (night prayers) regularly.

Humble yourself, acknowledge your sins, and seek forgiveness from Allah, the Owner of our souls.

Let’s start preparing now and prepare well. May Allah grant us a blessed and transformative Ramadan.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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As a Mother of Multiple Daughters

I’m still concerned about the recent incident. I’ll continue to raise awareness to prevent such occurrences in the future.

To all youngsters, remember:

Your Adkhar is extremely important. It’s your coat, and you need it at all times.

Avoid engaging in private chats with strangers, especially men, via inbox.

Refrain from sharing your phone number online unless necessary.

Refrain from uploading personal photos.

Prioritize your self-worth and dignity over material gain. Be content and don’t chase men for financial security.

May Allah protect and guide you all.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

My Heartfelt Advice to Youngsters

I’m still disturbed by the shocking incident in Ilorin. As a word of caution, I urge you girls to avoid double dating. Once you’re committed to someone, stick with them unless circumstances change.

The recent tragedy highlights the dangers of entertaining multiple relationships. The deceased had a prospective husband, yet somehow, the perpetrator gained her trust and obtained her contact information. This disturbing incident has left me concerned.

Please, avoid accepting multiple proposals simultaneously. Commit to one person, and if that relationship doesn’t work out, then consider another. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Important Advice for Our girls

Don’t consider a man without a legitimate source of income or whose income is suspicious.

Remember, it’s not all about money!

Avoid ‘Jalabi’ boys (those involved in questionable activities) and don’t let them deceive you into rituals.

Avoid visiting any man you meet online at his home – it can be extremely dangerous.

Stop chatting with strangers, especially men, on social media.

Your safety is paramount!

Involve your parents in your relationships; let them investigate and guide you.

Be transparent about any man you’re interested in, even Sunni.

Never think you can navigate marriage alone; involve your family and seek their counsel.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Ramadan

Ramadan Preparedness!

How are you preparing, brethren? We often read in a famous hadith that the companions were always ready when it comes to Ramadan preparedness. They lived by pristine Islam, taking every single day, minute, and opportunity seriously, as if it were their last moment on earth.

I’ve been asking myself, what am I giving up before the glorious month arrives? What will I desist from following or watching in the media? How will I maximize my time? Yes, preparedness should start now!

Ramadan preparedness refers to the physical, emotional, and spiritual preparations every Muslim should make before and during the blessed month of Ramadan. Here are some steps we can take:

1. Spiritual preparation: Reflect on past actions, seek forgiveness, and renew intentions to strengthen faith.

2. Physical preparation: Adjust sleep schedules, eat nutritious food, and stay hydrated to manage fasting.

3. Mental preparation: Manage stress, set realistic goals, and cultivate patience and self-discipline.

4. Practical preparation: Plan meals, shop for groceries, and adjust work or school schedules.

I’m currently working on getting the best out of the coming Ramadan. May Allah ease it for us. How about you? Let’s start preparing now. May Allah make us witness it in good faith and sound iman. Amin.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

The Blessing Beside You!

One of the most profound discoveries I’ve made about marriage is that many of us often overlook the tremendous blessing that our spouses are in our lives. We tend to take this extraordinary gift for granted, failing to recognize its true value and significance. However, I urge you to shift your perspective and start seeing your spouse as the precious blessing that they are.

In times of financial strain and hardship, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. But remember, Allah has blessed you with a life partner, a companion to share your joys and sorrows, while many others are still searching for theirs. Let us not forget that the presence of a loving spouse is a treasure that should be cherished and appreciated every day.

It’s often said that we don’t truly appreciate what we have until we lose it. So, let us cultivate a sense of gratitude and thankfulness to Allah for the gift of our spouses. They are the ones who wipe away our tears, offer us words of comfort, and reassure us that everything will be alright.

In a world filled with uncertainty and challenges, it’s the love and reassurance from our spouses that we need to navigate life’s ups and downs. May Allah grant us the gift of everlasting joy and make our spouses a continuous source of blessing and strength in our lives. May we always cherish, appreciate, and honor the precious gift of our partners, and may our marriages be filled with love, harmony, and happiness.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai