Be Determined in Your Goals

I was having a nice conversation with a colleague of mine the other day, and l told her l started nursing school when my third child was a month old. She was like, Majeedah; Wow! Wow! Wow!

Yes, it’s really important to be focused and determined in life. I have always told my kids to always go for their dreams. Nothing is unachievable in my diary. If you are certain that something will make a great impact in your life, make sure you pursue it. Do not procrastinate – do not give up. Yes, it can be overwhelming and tiring, but, the goal is success for you.

Seek Allah’s aid through prayers, dedication commitment, and let the result speak for you. May Allah grant us success in all we lay our hands on. I am a go-getter. Yes, l am an achiever. Alhamdulilaah!

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Two Ways Your Brand or Name Can Become Spoiled

There are two ways your brand or name can become spoiled and extremely difficult to rectify.

1. If you are not known to be truthful, sincere, and of good integrity, you may not be able to rectify the damage your action or inaction has caused you online.

2. If you are known to be honest and of good manners and integrity, some people will still believe what is said about you to the general public. But, your personality and truthfulness will speak for you. This may take time, but your brand will eventually be rectified.

The first is the worst position you do not want to be. Ensure to always maintain a good reputation in both private and public life. No one is perfect but as a business personnel, you must be extremely careful. Hence, you may regret you ever come to the media for business. May Allah rectify us all.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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You May Not Follow The Media

There are so many things to look into when it comes to a marriage proposal. The man Aqeedah, what is the person’s Manhaj? Compatibility in Deen and Character. His patience and mannerisms. How about his anger and how caring he is? Is he someone who has mercy and love in his heart? How is he to his parent and sisters?

 

You must be able to establish those factors.

Get to thoroughly find out whom he has lived with, transacted business with, and traveled with.

 

Let me burst your bubble.

 

I do not say you should accept a proposal from a man who can’t feed himself and does not have a roof to put you under. I do not say you should reject the proposal of a wealthy brother. But, be smart enough to look above wealth. Look before you leap. Again, thoroughly make your findings. Look before you leap. Deen superseded wealth.

 

In 2003, l married my only husband who was earning 10k monthly and still living in his parent’s house. Wo, this poor woman has gone through a lot in marriage. Get my books for more tips on how to become a successful woman in Dunya and Akhirah. My first book “Towards A Successful Marriage” (buy it here) will assist you a lot before saying, Yes, l do. My second book  “Heart-to-Heart with My Sister” (buy it here) will calm your Nafs to thread patiently and have a forgiving heart toward your husband. My third book “Thriving Together Strategies for Overcoming Polygny Trials”  (buy it here) will assist you in overcoming the trials of a polygyny marriage. May Allah accept and bless all the books.

 

See, money is very, very, important. But, l am a woman of Tawakkul. But, be sure you are not fooling yourself around with a man who does not give a freak. May Allah grant you the best.

 

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Consistency is Key

Consistency creates stability and it’s the key to success in all areas of life. We are advised to choose a habit we can maintain, and build on it.

 

It is the same consistency that makes you become recognized in the sight of Allah. Once you become addicted, say for example, in observing Qiyam Layl. Allah already recognized you. And if you fall short due to sickness or are overtaken by sleep, you will be getting a reward for what you love doing.

 

It is inconsistency in prayers that makes some people question who their LORD is. This makes them seek help from others other than Allah.

 

It is consistency that is missing in relationships, friendships, and marriage at large. Many of us do not want to sacrifice to maintain love and build solid homes for a better generation to come. We are quick to give up.

Inconsistency has made a man or woman who had vowed to be considerate, loving, and merciful towards each other forget the reward that comes with it in both worlds. And indeed Allah loves those who are consistent in worship. However, not many people understand that marriage itself is worship. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Beyond Money!

Again, marriage is a complex thing. What works in your home may not work in others’ homes. So, before you walk away due to his financial inadequacy, try to see other goods in him.

It may not be ideal to marry anyone who does not have a roof to put you under – nor is it compulsory to marry a billionaire. That doesn’t mean you should say No if you find one whose Din and character please you alongside his wealth. Who doesn’t like good things? A man who is attracted by your beauty should also be ready to spend on you to maintain that beauty.

However, a religious, kind-hearted man may be an average man in finance. That makes sticking with him crucial after thorough findings before saying Yes, I do. Saying ‘Yes’ to him may be considered an opportunity to grow in love and mercy. Your intention of marriage with him is beyond money, but patience. Eventually, when the money comes, he will utilize it considerably.

Money is indeed needed in all relationships. A man should always have something he does regardless. But, love, mercy, and compatibility in Din and characters should never be ignored. If your husband is trying, try to endure. Do not leave the marriage without considering other factors.

May Allah enrich our spouses. May He ease the affairs of our homes.

Umm Sumayyah Mai