Divorce is painful and exhausting. Years ago, when I was going through a difficult time in my marriage, I was determined to leave. Frustration and depression consumed me, and my heart couldn’t take the pain anymore. In those moments, I wished I had never met my husband. Yet, my heart still yearned for him, but I was drained.
The truth is, I never regretted saying yes to him, primarily because he’s the father of my children. However, human endurance has its limits, especially for women. When pain lingers and unresolved issues pile up, it can damage a woman’s spirit and make her resolute.
Women are fragile and need proper care, love, and attention. They need their partners to listen and make necessary changes. I ask: how are we treating the women we want to raise successful children? From experience, it takes women a while to consider divorce. No sane woman wants to leave her marriage without valid reasons.
To those considering divorce, I say: think carefully before acting. For women who’ve worked hard to keep their homes together but couldn’t continue due to their husband’s treatment, we must support them. We should remind husbands of their responsibilities and encourage them to treat their wives with kindness.
By doing so, our community will flourish, our homes will be at peace, and our children will grow into successful individuals. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.
‘ Umm Sumayyah Mai