There is no perfect marriage, nor a perfect man or woman out there. Perfection belongs to Allah alone. So, let’s not expect too much from our spouses. As I wrote in my book, “Can love be too much?” our core love should be, first and foremost, for Allah. It’s wonderful to love, and love is indeed life-giving and sweet. However, giving our utmost love to Allah should be our top priority.
There’s no perfect partner out there, and you often don’t know someone’s true character until you live with them. If challenges arise in your marriage, you receive support from loved ones, and the issue is resolvable; try to be patient. Listen to and work with people who genuinely care about you and want the best for your relationship. I understand that unresolved issues can accumulate and lead people to leave their marriages. But if yours can still be salvaged, and your partner is willing to work through issues and take accountability, please consider listening and giving it a chance.
Men who truly love and care about their partners will go the extra mile to keep them happy because they recognize their worth. Every marriage is unique, and the reasons people leave are different. Your story is distinct, and it’s not going to be the same as someone else’s. Learning to listen and not focusing on every mistake your partner makes is crucial. Marriage works when both partners are willing to work together for peace. If your marriage can be resolved, I encourage you to hold on to it and work through the challenges.
– Umm Sumayyah Mai