None of those prayers you say will ever go in vain. Allah listens, and He listens to your prayers and cries. I have heard and listened to parents who are on the verge of giving up on their wards. A statement like, “l am tired, l can’t come and die because of a child.” No, the child is a ‘trust’ from Allah. You must do all it takes to make him or her responsible. Never give up on a stubborn child.

A stubborn child can indeed make one life miserable, but, giving up on such a child may have a long time effect. And that effect wouldn’t just be on the child alone, but also on the parent. So, it’s important to keep pushing with proper counseling, and prayers, and firmly stand your ground.

In the end, you will have a good story to share.

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The last place l drove to with the kids was North Carolina. Today, June 29th, l was supposed to have been on the road driving to New York. But, l told them to allow me to sleep this morning. Let me be the one that wakes up myself. I was at work yesterday.  

It’s going to be a month of summer holiday for them and each summer we plan to go somewhere, book a hotel, have fun and return after 3 or 4 days. I have loved doing it with the kids. I always look forward to it each summer.

It’s important to create a memory bank for the kids, aside from the Deen if you have the means. Let them remember days like that when they grow up. I heard my kids talking about each state we had driven to for holidays and l always felt special about it. I am happy they were given every fun they deserved. However, l do not want to do more than 9 hrs drive. That’s kinda enough for me

Look, you do not have to go to New York or whatever, you can create a time for your kids as well. Take them out to an ice cream shop, let them go to a halal restaurant, and have halal fun. May Allah enrich us all. Let me see if my New York trip will work out today or not. May Allah ease all of our affairs.

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Your children will take good care of you too. That was my prayer to my first daughter last night after she washed, cleansed, and combed my hair beautifully. The hair is set to be done today by her, lnn Shaa Allah.

I was so relaxed with a towel on my neck having her do the great work on my head. See, it’s good to have a girl child. And it’s crucial to raise your children well. Try your best to invest in them. They are indeed your priority as a mother. May Allah protect them from all evil. Amyin!

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 have heard and seen brothers who are struggling to put a smile on the faces of their wives and children. They are working hard to get them Eid dresses and also purchase what to slaughter on the big day. Alas, many ain’t buoyant and may not meet up before Eid. 

I see you, bro! Allah sees your struggle. He knows how much you care about your family and He hasn’t forsaken you. May Allah enrich you.

I see my beautiful sisters who are taking a deep breath. Yes, they want to be happy like other women. But things ain’t going well as wished.

Be patient, sister. Be patient with your husband my dear, sister. Allah will enrich him. Allah will uplift him sooner than you expected. It isn’t his fault. Appreciate him for the little he is doing. May Allah reward your patience with Jannah. May He ease the affairs of our home.

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Polygny is a practice approved of by Allāh,and it can not be overruled by the personal desire of any human .In fact bearing in mind that it’s a Divine ordainment for men should help a true Muslimah to submit to the decree of Allāh.This is the period to exercise patience and bear the pain with total reliance on Allāh.
Yes it’s easier said than done.but remember that I have been there’ and I write based on personal experience.Its normal to be hurt .It is okay to cry .But remember to hold on to the rope of Allāh.
Tell Allāh. “Here I am a submissive servant of yours.A promise to do it for your sake!
I promise to accept her for ur sake !
My living and my death are solely for you O Allāh help me to be firm, submissive and grant me steadfastness I am about to take on a huge task so help me ,O Allāh
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