This has been the statement of many sisters who are going through Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder is a condition of persistent mental and emotional stress occurring as a result of injury or severe psychological shock, typically involving disturbance of sleep and constant vivid recall of the experience, with dulled responses to others and the outside world.
When someone tells you, l want to commit suicide, your first question is why? Yes, why? Perhaps, at that point, you want to hear their rationales; and you definitely will want to settle for open-ended questions. It is important to know that a lot of people are going through some kind of trauma that affects them emotionally and psychologically. Do not just think or say, how could she allow herself to be used by Shaytaan like that? Perhaps, it is more than you think. It is beyond them at some point. All they ever wanted was to speak with someone and share their pain.
It is hard for most of them to forget and let go just like that. It’s hard for them to witness their parents being murdered and it is hard for them to forget the description of the man who had raped and abused them. It is hard for them to forget the spot and the injury inflicted in the process. None of them with this diagnosis ever forget the incident.
To the one going through some of the aforementioned plights, l want to remind you that indeed Allaah ‘Azza Wa Jall knows why certain things happen to certain people. He knows what you do not know. He, Allaah takes and gives. He does as He wills and as destined. Do not take your life for the trauma you have suffered and the pain you have gone through. Do not because someone had abused you sexually and physically take your life. Do not because someone has taken the life of your loved one to commit suicide. For by Allaah, you are better than them. You are blessed by Allaah. Allaah gave you many things to be thankful for. He gave you wisdom and a large heart. He gave you a tongue full of gratitude and a very inspiring soul. Life is a test, we all face it, some of us passed the trial while many of us failed woefully. Yet, we couldn’t take our souls for it. We didn’t fall for Shaytaan’s trap, because, we couldn’t afford to commit suicide. We can’t afford to lose our Jannah for the test of Dunya. Be strong and surround yourself with strong people. Today may be challenging, but ln sha Allaah tomorrow is promising.
Let’s always be there for them. Be there for your sister in faith and be there for your lover in pain. Be there and let them lean on you. Let them know Dunya is temporary and Allaah has created a test/trial for a purpose. The purpose includes knowing who you are in the sight of Allah and the test that includes raising your status when you become patient and persevere when trial strikes. Be thankful my dear sister, and always remember that Allah doesn’t wrong anyone. May Allah ease your affairs.
Umm Sumayyah Mai
June 24th, 2019