One of the key elements that gives marriage a lasting edge is when both couples make a conscious effort to avoid intentionally hurting the one they love. A union between two lovely people not only strengthens their love but also creates a lasting bond. However, when challenges arise, and one party is hurt due to the other’s behavior or character, the hurt individual may develop a mindset of revenge. This mindset, often seen in women, can manifest as a deep-seated desire to retaliate or hurt the other party in the future, especially in old age.
I hear you, and I feel your pain deeply. It’s understandable to feel this way, given the hurt and exhaustion you’ve endured. The sadness and vacuum in your heart are palpable. However, I want to encourage you today to let go of this mindset of revenge. Holding onto it can consume you and prevent you from healing and moving forward.
Instead, consider the power of forgiveness and letting go. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the hurt or excusing the other person’s behavior, but rather releasing the hold it has on you. By choosing to forgive, you can begin to heal and rebuild your life. Remember, life is too short to be consumed by bitterness and anger. Choose love, forgiveness, and peace, and let go of the need for revenge.
By doing so, you’ll not only free yourself from the weight of resentment but also create space for personal growth, healing, and potentially, a more fulfilling relationship – either with your partner or with yourself.
– Umm Sumayyah Mai
