Love, Respect & Compromise 

I have heard people say you can’t always be spiritual and serious all the time in your marriage. Meaning that: there should be an avenue for play, laughter, and fun. Couples should know and put that into perspective. Your spouse needs your attention – they want you to pay due attention to them. Marriage comes with compromise, sacrifice, and great efforts to make it work. But, what you want to compromise shouldn’t go against the limit set by Allah – like Kufr. 

Be vulnerable with your spouse. They are your partners. Take things easy even when you argue on issues. Arguments are good sometimes when done healthily. Have listening ears and show some sympathy. Your spouse may never know what’s going on with you if you don’t speak up. It’s necessary to ask and when asked to speak your mind for a better solution.

Marriage is a place of love and tranquility. Love is needed for the union to grow and succeed. Both partners must avoid external forces and concentrate on the foundation of their marriage – which is love and mercy. Sometimes, without these two, the marriage may not last longer.

Respect is indeed earned as people say, but more importantly one of the rights of your husband. Every man loves to be respected regardless of their status – either rich or poor. Women also deserve it. They want your love and appreciation.

In all, married people are twice as likely to be happy with their lives than those who are not married. Marriage is good for your mental health and it enhances individual well-being. It however comes with some challenges and never a bed of roses. How you handle it matters a lot.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Youth empowerment programs