If a widow were asked how much she misses her husband, she might not stop crying, and perhaps she won’t remember the bad times. All she’ll want to recall is his good side. The thought of not seeing him again is sorrow, pain, and agony enough. She would have forgiven him, and instead, she misses him, especially if he had left her with multiple children.
This should be the same in marriage. Recognizing that no one is flawless except Allah is enough to forgive our hurts. Especially if our spouse feels remorseful and wants to make amends at all costs. If Allah blesses you with a good spouse and an issue arises in your marriage, try to see the good side of your spouse and don’t close all doors. Marriage requires forgiveness, sacrifice, patience, and endurance. No one on earth is flawless, and our spouses will inevitably have flaws. We must learn to overlook some of their flaws and forgive them for the sake of Allah.
This advice isn’t for spouses who don’t care about the relationship, but for those who are sincerely working hard to make it work. May Allah ease the affairs of our homes.
– Umm Sumayyah Mai
