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Start Your Day Distancing Yourself from Your Phone

One of the valuable lessons I’ve learned over the years is to start my day by distancing myself from my phone during the last third of the night. More importantly, I make it a point to raise my hands in supplication to my Rabb before speaking with anyone.

Working in an acute care setting, specifically in Neuro/Stroke, can be challenging. To prepare myself for the day ahead, I ask my Rabb to grant me the best patients and family members. This morning moment is also an opportunity to seek the good of this life and the next.

Let’s not forget to include our loved ones – parents, children, spouses, and family members – in our supplications during this critical time. By doing so, we can live a more fulfilled life.

Take advantage of this precious morning period to express gratitude for what we have and what’s to come. May Allah grant us safety and steadfastness.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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Preparing Our Hearts

The weaknesses of our hearts are immense, causing destruction and chaos in our lives. We’re consumed by distractions, constantly glued to our phones and the media. This addiction worsens daily, and it’s no exaggeration to say that our youth are heavily influenced by what they see in the media and often tempted to emulate it.

Our souls are being corrupted, and the media’s distractions have replaced the Quran, Adkhar, and tarbiyyah (nurturing) of our children.

As Ramadan approaches, let’s prepare our hearts for this blessed month. Let’s gather resources that will benefit us during and after Ramadan. Make a sincere intention to maximize the opportunities Ramadan presents.

It’s time to eliminate distractions and immerse ourselves in the spirit of Ramadan. Block out distractions, increase your Quran recitation, and observe Qiyamul Layl (night prayers) regularly.

Humble yourself, acknowledge your sins, and seek forgiveness from Allah, the Owner of our souls.

Let’s start preparing now and prepare well. May Allah grant us a blessed and transformative Ramadan.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

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As a Mother of Multiple Daughters

I’m still concerned about the recent incident. I’ll continue to raise awareness to prevent such occurrences in the future.

To all youngsters, remember:

Your Adkhar is extremely important. It’s your coat, and you need it at all times.

Avoid engaging in private chats with strangers, especially men, via inbox.

Refrain from sharing your phone number online unless necessary.

Refrain from uploading personal photos.

Prioritize your self-worth and dignity over material gain. Be content and don’t chase men for financial security.

May Allah protect and guide you all.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

My Heartfelt Advice to Youngsters

I’m still disturbed by the shocking incident in Ilorin. As a word of caution, I urge you girls to avoid double dating. Once you’re committed to someone, stick with them unless circumstances change.

The recent tragedy highlights the dangers of entertaining multiple relationships. The deceased had a prospective husband, yet somehow, the perpetrator gained her trust and obtained her contact information. This disturbing incident has left me concerned.

Please, avoid accepting multiple proposals simultaneously. Commit to one person, and if that relationship doesn’t work out, then consider another. Your safety and well-being are paramount.

Umm Sumayyah Mai

Important Advice for Our girls

Don’t consider a man without a legitimate source of income or whose income is suspicious.

Remember, it’s not all about money!

Avoid ‘Jalabi’ boys (those involved in questionable activities) and don’t let them deceive you into rituals.

Avoid visiting any man you meet online at his home – it can be extremely dangerous.

Stop chatting with strangers, especially men, on social media.

Your safety is paramount!

Involve your parents in your relationships; let them investigate and guide you.

Be transparent about any man you’re interested in, even Sunni.

Never think you can navigate marriage alone; involve your family and seek their counsel.

Umm Sumayyah Mai